Loosen Up !!!

I thought the whole thing about being OUT was to convery that everyone should have freedom to express our true selves. I'm new to all these lesbian "labels" but I'm learning. I like women and want to meet someone I'm compatible with - makeup or no makeup - dress or no dress. I like the versatility of being a lesbian because I can express all my sides. I don't want to fit a stereotype of what a woman is.

I was born of a woman and man so I don't divide myself into parts. Just looking at me, I'm a woman, but some would say I'm not feminine enough because I like carpentry and taking things apart. You know, liking poetry, writing and having a sensitive soul is womanly but not building bookcases. And the biggy -- I am a lesbian. For me, all that word means is that I am sexually attracted to women not men. The ignorant thinks it means I want to be a man. Nope, not me. I am a human-being, therefore, I am a sexual-being. I personally, sexually like women only. That doesn't mean I don't like men -- just not sexually attracted to them. The fact of that irritates some people.

I think why some heterosexual men have a problem with feminine-looking men is because they don't ever want their sexuality questioned by others or themselves. It's natural to want to keep looking at who/what our eyes find pleasant. Some heterosexual men don't ever want their sexual senses aroused by looking at another man. I think some heterosexual women feel the same way about masculine-looking women. Some people are so afraid of their own sexuality that they don't ever want it tested. So for some heterosexuals to feel comfortable in their own skin, they want everyone else to dress and behave a certain way so as to not to be confused.

Unfortunately, some of us in the queer community also want people to dress and act in a certain way so as to try to be accepted by heterosexual society. I use the word "queer" because I think it applies to everyone, LGBT & heterosexual, who don't fit the perceived notion of what is normal
behavior for humans. We are all born naked. HA! And then someone puts blue or pink clothing on us and we are then expected to fit that idea and behave accordingly.

Why should it be an accepted thing that it is okay to wage war but not to love. Make love not war is a good slogan that is not used enough. Wars are not always fought with bullets and bombs. More often, it is words and money that destroy hopes, dreams and families. Some heterosexuals use words and money to try to stop people from achieving their full potential of freedom and happiness. But in the LGBT community, words are also used to hurt certain people that don't fit a particular idea of how we should be represented publicly.

We like who we like -- love who we love. We should not judge each other on our skin-tone, religion or sexuality. We should also not judge what consenting adults do in their bedrooms or how they are dressed when in public.

I have no problem with any woman who expresses her preference in clothing or what she wants sexually. I personally like touching and being touched by a woman. I've learned that some women don't like to be touched sexually in certain ways. SO! If it bothers you what a woman wears in public then you should ask yourself why. In the bedroom, no one should do what they don't feel comfortable doing, and that should be discussed before entering into a physical relationship. Why judge someone because it's not the way you would do things. If we are going to be free then adults should be free to be who we are -- as long as it does not hurt or take away the rights of others.

We all need to loosen up and enjoy this short life span on Earth. PEACE.